Tired of trying to stay positive all the time?

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Tired of trying to stay positive all the time? 

That's understandable.

Trying to think positive all the time or change your negative thoughts into positive ones is not only tiring, but it's also a losing game. 

Contrary to many personal development books that will advocate the message 'change your thoughts, change your life' the reality is that we don't actually choose what thoughts pop into our head. They just pop in!

That's the nature of how thought works. 

If you are a living and breathing human, you will experience thousands of thoughts, with estimates of up to 70,000-80,000 thoughts a day, of which some will feel positive, some negative, and some neutral. So 'negative thought' is part of the human experience, and thinking we can change that, goes against nature.

It's not the fact that we think negative thoughts that are the problem, it's that we've come to believe that those thoughts *mean* something more than just thought, that's the problem. 

Just because a negative or unhelpful thought about you, someone you know, or a situation you're in, pops into your head, that doesn't make it true or real.  Which means you don't have to pay attention to it, accept it; or believe it.

What's more, it certainly doesn’t mean you have to act on it unless it makes sense to, and it fits in with the direction you're wanting to head in life, work, health, or for the good of your relationships.

Because what is a thought, really? Well, in it's purest state, it's merely formless energy passing through the system, it has no *matter* to it.

Thought gets brought to life by our internal cinematic experience, and then it's gone again, onto the next thought.

When we remember that all thought is just our own version of our own film playing out inside our minds 24 hours a day (yes, dreams are thoughts too), that's when our minds settle down, and we can enjoy the moment to moment experience of being in life, just like we do when we watch a film. We don't need to change the film, rewrite the script, or tinker with the machinery that brings us the film!

In any given moment, we have a multi-sensory, cinematic experience of the content of our thinking, but when you know it's just a moving picture passing through the 'system' - then you feel less inclined to act on the scary bits.

That in itself can save you an incredible amount of time, money, headspace, and mess to clear up later on after you wake up to the realisation that you didn’t need to act on any thought that wasn't helpful to you.

About Sarah... 

Hi, I'm Sarah Swanton, co-founder of 808 Talent, and I provide wellbeing & resilience coaching to leaders and their teams who want to learn how to operate from a place of calm, clarity and common-sense more of the time, so they can make smarter decisionscreate more impact, and achieve better results in both their work and personal life.

For more information about how to connect please go to www.808talent.com/wellbeing where you can arrange an initial (free) consultation and we can talk about what you'd like to achieve over the coming months and we can see if it's a good fit for us working together. 

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